Life is suffering. We heard this many times. And yet, this is only true if you don’t see how you hold yourself captive by one single thought. That’s the cause of all suffering.
You might think: One single thought? Is that it?
The answer is YES. What a powerful concept: our cause of all suffering is one single thought. What if we replace that thought whenever it comes up – as it does frequently, hence all the suffering.
Just to make it crystal clear: a simple replacement of a frequent thought by a more helpful one can end all (psychological) suffering.
Sounds simple, but is not easy in many situations. And yet it can be learned. Which reminds me of the statement ‘Happiness is a Skill.’ Quote: “If you can learn how to ride a bike you can learn how to be happy,” says Buddhist monk and ‘Happiest Man In The World’, Matthieu Ricard.
You probably get a bit irritated by now, as so far I’ve still not mentioned that single thought. Which is precisely my point! You wish for a revelation, a secret, that’s of high value to you: one simple thought that ends all your suffering. But you are not getting it (yet). You get irritated. Suffering builds up.
So ask yourself: what thought would you need to stop thinking, to be happy, satisfied, instead of suffering?
Think about it. Think about an irritating situation you had recently. You don’t like what’s present – you wish it to be different. Maybe a repetitive situation, that really bothers you – a lot.
- You get stressed by it.
- You feel the emotions rising just thinking about it.
- You feel your blood starting to boil, as a rage builds.
- (To get real value out of this post, ideally, you connect with something that really p*****you off!)
Do you have it in mind? Are you connected with it? Do you suffer because of it?
Are you ready? For the one thought that causes all the suffering?
Then let me reveal. As you have already read it a few lines earlier but probably missed it, as it is simple, yet profound.
I don’t like what’s present – I wish it to be different. I don’t like what’s present – I wish it to be different. I don’t like what’s present – I wish it to be different. I don’t like what’s present – I wish it to be different. I don’t like what’s present – I wish it to be different. I don’t like what’s present – I wish it to be different. I don’t like what’s present – I wish it to be different.
OK, I think seven times in enough, although some think this thought 100s if not 1000s times each day. Science tell us we have 50.000 thoughts a day – and most of them are negative.
Change that one thought and your psychological suffering ends. The experience itself is not the problem. It’s the thought associated with your experience that causes the suffering.
The ‘Undivided Leader’ does not dwell on this thought. When it comes up – and it does – the Undivided Leader lets go of it. And works on solutions instead of getting stuck in a loop.
Let me give you starting point, a valuable thought: Accept what you cannot change, change what you cannot accept. Learn to make wise choices, when to do what.
Just ACCEPTING the experience that causes you irritation instead of ‘wanting to change it’, which you often can’t in that moment, enables you to experience the feeling without ‘wishing it to be different’. Can you already see what difference that would make?
(My credit to Rupert Spira as inspiration for this post, as he brings it across so well for me.)
To the “Undivided Leader” in you.